我对婚姻的看法(My Idea About Marriage)

• 我对婚姻的看法(My Idea About Marriage)
  
  　I have heard that once you get involved in marriage, you will receive three rings: engagement ring, wedding ring and suffering. Marriage, for some people, if not for all, means suffering.
  
  　Marriage is troubling. It seems to be a long march to seek our Mr. Right, and everyone wants a perfect one. It takes you a great deal of time and energy to try and find the perfect love. Everyone hopes that they can have a one-and-only true love in life, but this is easier said than done. Girls are always looking forward to a romantic and extraordinary love while boys are beating their brains to meet their girlfriend’s requests. Maybe it is a pleasure to sacrifice for love. There is no doubt that marriage is not that easy.
  
  　Marriage is worrying. In the days shortly after the wedding ceremony, most of us are still lost in happy feelings and have great wonders for the future. However, we soon find that our life is actually in a mess. We cannot assume the responsibilities for the family. We have to pay all sorts of bills with our own money. We need to do this because we are adults. We have to live by ourselves. We cannot depend on our parents any longer to support our own family. We have to earn and economize on everything. Therefore, quarrels may come up. Although they are just about something trivial, they gradually sap our love. Living together, we get more chances to know the negative side of our spouse. Once we have a baby, we have to try our best to earn more money to give the baby comfortable surroundings and consider how to raise it, what kind of education we should give it, and so forth. If you do not think these are serious problems, then you must consider the most horrible problem of violence. Once I heard such a story: a young woman, who was excellent, fell in love with a seemingly gentle man. This young gentle man seemed to love her so much and would sacrifice his life for her. This girl was so deeply moved that they went into the church and got married. But before long, this so-called gentle man beat his beloved black and blue when his wife was with child. There are still many examples of this happening in our daily life. The possibility of an unhappy marriage is worrying.
  
  　Marriage is suffering. One day, if we can’t compromise with our spouse any more and we have to divorce, how can we deal with the divorce settlement, how can we surmount the overwhelming pain? Human beings always seem to be pessimistic. After we divorce, what we easily recall is the pain rather than the happiness we have enjoyed. So why are we so stupid to give the tears a chance to be the souvenir of our marriage? And the most important thing is how to explain it to our children. No matter what we do, it will still cast an incredibly long shadow on our children. It’s a miserable thing.
  
  　There is so much uncertainty in marriage. It is the longest social contract we’ll ever make. I am not willing to be tied to a marriage. I am not willing to hurt those who love me and those whom I love. I am not willing to be hurt. “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” It’s no longer a male-bashing society. We are equal to men. We can earn money by ourselves. Maybe being unmarried is not our best choice, but it’s the safest one.  
  
  
  
  
  
  上一篇：Would Modern Technology Make Man a Tool of His Tools?   下一篇：选择的重要性(Knowing the Consequences of Choice)